Month: April 2017

I shop cheap for my kids: Here’s the why & where

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Not that I’m crapping on anyone’s parade but sometimes when I see wee little babies/kids wearing a high-end brand name shirt I inwardly cringe. Apart from them outgrowing clothes, they’re pretty much rough with it. My kids change clothes about four or five times a day. There’s always food stains, art stains and dirt marks from playing outside. Now I’m not against investing in a nice outfit for a picture or to go somewhere nice but my goodness! I cannot purchase expensive things for my children. Can you? I know every kid is different, some are tidier than some. My older one is on the careful side but she too runs her clothing and shoes into the ground.

All of our shoes are dirty. As much as I try to get them different shoes for playing/going out somewhere nice, it’ll end up the same…battered and filthy. Quality of clothing is definitely a concern when you want the longevity of an item. But children’s clothes are expensive as it is, cheaper quality or not. Personally I love to shop where I can sign up for e-mail coupons or buy one get one free.

I’d like to share some of the places that I shop at for basic, everyday clothing, mostly worn at the park or at home. I do get cute outfits at these stores as well.

Note: This is not a sponsored post.

  1. Target – Yes I am a Target mom and I love all things Target. They often have sales for children’s clothing/shoes and they have an app called Cartwheel which has additional coupons that you can scan at the checkout. Target has really inexpensive shirts and leggings for kids that they can run down at the park or at home.
  2. Carters – Although I feel like Carters could have a cuter variety, they do have a lot of sales and send coupons so it works out. Their clothing lasts a long time considering I wash my kids clothing a lot. They also have really cute and affordable footwear, great quality.
  3. H&M
  4. The Children’s Place – I’m not totally fond of the quality of the shirts at Children’s Place but they do have cuter items than a lot of other stores for children. They have very affordable dresses and accessories as well. I recently bought my kids jeans from here and the quality is nice. I especially loved the variety. I was able to get the super skinny jean here for my kids.(No it doesn’t fit them tight. Their legs are longer than girth)
  5. Old Navy – I don’t really shop at Old Navy for my kids but they are similar to Carters in the sense that they have a lot of sales.
  6. JC Penney, Sears, Kohls – The quality at these stores are on the better side, not to mention great quality brand name shoes like Nike, New Balance etc. If you shop smart, you can get items at great prices.

Those are the main stores that I shop at for my kids(and myself). To me it makes no sense to get my children’s entire wardrobe from high ends stores. Where do you shop for your kids? I’d love to hear!

xo Coffee Doll

Ice Cream for Breakfast?

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Do you ever stop to remember the exact moment that your little rascals developed an insanely ridiculous sweet tooth? Now I’m not talking about a little treat here and there, I’m talking about how they attempt to bully me into giving them chips, oreos and ice-cream for breakfast. It doesn’t work, however. As much as I’d like to say, “Here’s your damn ice-cream, now let me finish my cup of coffee for once before it gets cold,” I don’t. I try to stick to my guns but the rascals outnumber me, and they try to break me early o’ clock.

Breakfast at our house would normally consist of some grain and a side of fruit, one of the only meals that they’d eat without me begging them to but lately it’s been getting crazy. My younger one, a toddler is the better eater and even she thinks chips are a breakfast option. Someone looking in from the outside would think my kids are like this because I’ve spoiled them or given them bad habits early on but this is so not the case. This is one of the instances where you children will defy your parenting no matter what you say or do, no matter what tactic and disciplinary action you take.

I just want to say to all the parents who struggle with their kids’ defiance and have no idea where it comes from, don’t blame yourself. The first thing I do whenever this happens if try to figure out if I did something to trigger this behavior or maybe I was too neglectful at some point. I really beat myself up when my four year old exercises her dominance over everyone basically. I deeply feel like it’s something she picked up from me or my husband, maybe it’s an attitude we have or maybe it’s something we said. While I’m trying to figure out the best parenting tactics to combat her newfound behaviors, I’ve observed two things. When your kids start school they pick up new behaviors and attitudes, they say things you have never said in front of them. And the second is that younger kids mimic their older siblings every chance they get. Truth to be told, you need to teach kids to not be little sh*ts but they learn to be little sh*ts all on there own.

So if you’re really beating yourself up over all of this, please don’t. You’re doing the best you can and some things are just inevitable when it comes to children. Our role is to guide our children to becoming the best human they can be, a mixture of compassion, empathy, strength, kindness, determination and diligence.

Have a great weekend folks! xo Coffee Doll

May TBR List…books books books whoooo!

Good Friday folks! It’s a beautiful day out but I am inside tidying the explosion my tiny humans make ten times daily. How was your week? How is your Friday going so far and what are your plans like this weekend?

Most Importantly….what are you reading????

I am currently reading Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children by Ransom Riggs. I’ve actually started this book maybe a week ago or almost a week ago but I’m reading super slow….I get so tired at night(ugh) especially now that my toddler has learned to climb out of her crib.(Sigh) Hopefully I can make some headway with this book in the next couple of days so I can get started on my May reading.(yay!)

Note: I don’t complete my entire TBR list each month(womp womp womp) but I do get two or three of it crossed off. I’m always hauling books so I’m not going to unrealistically set a goal of twenty books. I’ll share a few that I’m hoping I will get into before the end of May. By the way, have you readers set reading challenges for the year? I’ve set a fifty book challenge and I am down thirteen so far(not very good) but we’ll see. No pressure!

I do like to mix up my reading as I read everything from romance to horror to fantasy etc etc and most recently I’ve been feeling the need to revisit a few classics as well as integrate children’s literature into my reading.

  1. Confess by Colleen Hoover
  2. Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone by J.K. Rowling (I did start reading this but I shelved it to read Miss Peregrine’s ooops!)
  3. Oliver Twist by Charles Dickens
  4. The Mortal Instruments Books 3-6 (yes, I haven’t read them yet although it’s one of my favorite series) – City of Fallen Angels, City of Lost Souls, City of Heavenly Fire
  5. R.L. Stine – I do want to read a few R.L Stine books in the Fear Street City really soon but I’m not sure which ones yet.

Have a great weekend! xo Coffee Doll

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What Did You Read As A Child?

Reading has always been a huge part of who I am. For as long as I can remember I was gifted books by my parents and we’ve always had shelves filled with books that I often lost myself in. At a very young age, reading became very valuable to me, as an escape, as a coping mechanism for when the world got tough. I was never the type of kid who made friends easily and the ones who I tried to befriend never had my best interests at heart so I learned hurt, rejection and disappointment at a very young age. Living within the pages of these books provided my soul the very thing it needed to survive.

I am approaching thirty years old so most of what I read isn’t being talked about in the online book community. At least I haven’t seen any content on it. I read Harry Potter when I was already a teenager and although it may be one of the best and most entangling series that I would ever encounter in life, I must share some of the other titles that took me far away to another place and time before I even hit the double digits.(ten years old)

  1. R.L. Stine/Goosebumps
  2. Fright Time – Fright Time is a series of books where each books hold three scary, gut wrenching stories for kids. Well at least they were bone chilling when I was a kid. I’d love to get my hands on this series again.
  3. Nancy Drew (Caroline Keene)
  4. The Hardy Boys (Franklin W. Dixon)
  5. The Secret Island (Enid Blyton)
  6. The Secret Garden (Frances Hodgson Burnett)
  7. The Prince and the Pauper(Mark Twain)
  8. Tom Sawyer/Huckleberry Finn(Mark Twain)
  9. Anne of Green Gables (L.M. Montgomery)
  10. The Wizard of Oz (L. Frank Baum)
  11. The Lion, the Witch and The Wardrobe (C.S. Lewis)
  12. Frankenstein (Mary Shelley)
  13. Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde (Robert Louis Stevenson)
  14. Black Beauty (Anna Sewell)
  15. Little Women (Louisa May Alcott)
  16. Disney Classics – Peter Pan, The Jungle Book
  17. Aesop’s Fables
  18. Charles Dickens – Great Expectations, A Christmas Carol
  19. The Little Mermaid (Hans Christian Anderson)
  20. Thumbelina (Hans Christian Anderson)
  21. The Nightingale (Hans Christian Anderson)
  22. The Babysitters Club
  23. Jane Austen – Pride and Prejudice, Sense and Sensibility

Have you read any of these? Leave me a line in the comments! xo Coffee Doll

I’d Like To Get A Pet but…

As someone who has owned pets most of her life, getting a pet now seems far-fetched. Pets require a lot of maintenance, attention and love…basically they’re a lot of work. It’s like having another child. I’m probably giving the impression that I’m anti-pet but the truth is, I’m not one of those people who can half-ass it when it comes to a pet. Like I said, a pet is like having another child and if I can’t manage being a pet owner to the fullest of my ability, I prefer not have one while my insides tear apart when I see our four-legged friends in the street.

If you are considering getting a pet and you have children like I do maybe my points will create some insights for you. I’m sure no pet loving individual would like to acquire a pet only to be overwhelmed and have to give it up.

Maintenance

Pets require a lot of care besides feeding. Dogs needs to be walked, cat boxes need to be cleaned, bird cages and fish bowls needs to be kept tidy etc. Kudos to people who do it but my two tiny humans create enough disaster for me all by 9a.m. I couldn’t fathom adding an extra thing to do after my daily tasks are completed.

Space

If you don’t have adequate space for a pet you might not want to consider owning one. Pets need to move around in their living area comfortably. Bear in mind the dropping temperatures and weather during the winter months. I often wonder how dogs do their business when there’s a blizzard.

Allergies & Kids

When you have children, you not only have to think about allergies but you have to think about what your children may or may not do. For instance my toddler would probably knock over a fish bowl when I wasn’t looking or let a bird out of its cage. She may not even be gentle with a larger pet so to own a pet with smaller children is definitely something worth consideration. (Disclaimer: This entire article applies to people who are now contemplating owning a pet not previous pet owners with children TY)

The Cost Factor

Something to also keep in mind are pet food, supplies and vet visits which are far from cheap. If you aren’t prepared for an extra bill each month, then please do think long and hard about being a pet owner.

If you are debating whether or not to get a pet, please know that the benefits outweigh the negatives although the negatives are ones to be carefully considered. Unfortunately when I moved, I had to leave my dog with my parents but I can honestly say he was my best friend, a protector, a stress reliever, a little thing that made my heart smile. Pets can assist you with exercise or daily routine. They provide the best companionship and are very calming. Something about owning a pet touches your insides.

xo Coffee Doll

Minimalist Living & It’s Economic Properties

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Let me just quickly insert a disclaimer that this post is in no way bashing a lavish lifestyle. You should spend your money whichever way you please but if you’re interested in learning how to cut out unnecessary things from your life, please proceed.

When I first started working at eighteen, I had no responsibilities like I have today so I bought a lot of wants and not needs. Pretty soon my life was a clutter of products that would sometimes expire before I even opened it. Sometimes I believe our culture conditions us to convince ourselves we need something when we really don’t. For instance, you may not purchase a top for $15 but if you were to save $3 on the top, you’d purchase it for $12 despite having ten tops at home. That sale doesn’t make you save $3, it makes you lose $12.

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All Work and No Pay

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Placeholder ImagePeople that know me look confused when I say that I have work to do. Well, it’s because I don’t actually have a paying job. It’s bizarre to some people why I would invest my time, sweat and tears into something I’m not being paid for. Do I wish to be paid for it? Yes, maybe. Does it need to impact my creativity? Absolutely not.

The thing that I’m talking about is writing but there are many creative people whether it be artists, musicians, cooks that aren’t making money where their skill set lies. I truly believe what drives creativity is something that comes from deep within, that no matter what you’re doing or what people tell you to do, you cannot shut the lid on your creative aspect.

Personally I do it because I love to do it and it’s a dream of mine to put out some completed…

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My Poetry Story & a Poem for my Preschooler

When I started writing, I began with poetry. I felt things so deeply as a child, teenager and the words would roll off my fingertips in the most expressive way ever. It remains one of the best ways that I could create something from within, although I haven’t been doing it for about a decade. Recently I’ve been focusing on stories and hopefully I can complete a book to my satisfaction in the near future. The other day, my preschooler had this project where the parents were asked to write how special their child is to them. I felt it robotic and generic to say things like…(insert name) is special because she is a good kid or I love the fun we have together. I felt it meaningless coming from my mouth so as I was about to write it, these words came to me and they sort of rhymed. Two lines of this poem was taken from an old birthday card my parents gave to me and it had remained with me since so I’m just putting it out there that it’s not my own. I will make those words bold. 

To begin the day with your smile,
Is a treasure from above,
You’re our pride and joy and laughter,
You fill our hearts with love.
We love you from the tip of your nose,
To the tip of your toes,
And with each passing moment,
It’s a blessing to see you grow.
You make our lives more special,
With all your laughter and hugs,
You’ll always be our baby girl,
Our little cuddly bugs.

xo Coffee Doll. All rights reserved.

 

Toxic Relationships

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A while back, I wrote about toxic friendships and how to detect it on my blog and I’ve always wanted to touch on the topic of toxic relationships. Sometimes we tend to overlook some serious damage being done underneath the surface in hopes of things changing for the better. As usual I have to insert a disclaimer saying this post doesn’t speak for all relationships as many relationships survive its daily ups and downs.

Like toxic friendships, the toxicity in relationships aren’t always seen in black or white. A toxic partner wouldn’t necessarily harm you in a direct way such as abuse, cheating etc. There are grayed out areas in a relationship that you know and feel is not correct for you yet it’s hard to cut ties and move on. You may feel an intense love for your partner, and generally you both have a great time together. A…

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