Month: January 2016

What Do Men Read?

It’s a known fact that men read, but what do they read? Currently I’m reading a Nora Roberts novel and I was thinking to myself, “Would a guy read a book like this?” I have seen men with novels, magazines, newspapers etc quite a lot previously but I don’t know what’s happening right now. I decided to do a little experiment or research via social media by asking, “What Do Men Read?” I didn’t get a lot of participants but I’ll work with what I’ve gotten. Women even gave their suggestions, I’ll also include that.

Guy #1
What do you read?
– News, Newspapers

Why?
– Because it’s short, and I don’t have patience to read anything longer.

Guy #2
What do you read?
– Research and development about auto and electronics

Why?
– Because it’s fascinating and it makes sense.

Guy #3
What do you read?
– Spiritual Books

Why?
– Because I practice mysticism.

Guy #4
What do you read?
 Manga

Why?
Because I like the art style of the pictures and also it’s read from right to left.

Guy #5
What do you read?
Sci-Fi, Fantasy, anything gory and supernatural, manga and comics

Why?
To escape to a new world and to learn life lessons that weren’t taught.

Some of the answers women commented:
– Porn (LOL), Mystery, Thriller, Comics, Manga, Magazines.

Conclusion

I think it’s a common misconception that men don’t read, that it’s not a manly thing to do, however there are a lot of literature out there suitable for men. My research was to learn what men do read as of 2016 because times have changed a lot since I had reading guy friends in school. In conclusion I think men are truthful readers, in the sense that they read what interests them only and not what is mainstream.

Thank You to everyone who was helpful,
xo Kat

What’s On My Bookshelf (January 2016)

These do not include what’s on my Kindle App. It’d be impossible to add those, there are over 50 books on there. I will post reviews as I read them. Some of these are older books and not all of these I may read in 2016. These are what’s on my bookshelf as of January 2016. No specific genre, I read everything!

* The Mortal Instruments by Cassandra Clare (Read)

  • City of Bones
  • City of Ashes
  • City of Glass
* The Lunar Chronicles by Marissa Meyer
  • Cinder
  • Scarlet
  • Cress
  • Winter

*Shiva Trilogy by Amish Tripathi

  • The Immortals of Meluha
  • The Secret of the Nagas
  • The Oaths of Vayuputras
    *Throne of Glass Series
    • Throne of Glass
    • Crown of Midnight
    • Heir of Fire
    • Queen of Shadows
    *Frankenstein Series by Dean Koontz
    • Prodigal Son
    • City of Night
    • Dead and ALive
    • Lost Souls
    • The Dead Town

      *The Secrets of the Immortal Nicolas Flamel by Micheal Scott

      • The Alchemist
      • The Magician
      • The Sorceress
      • The Necromancer
      • The Warlock
      • The Enchantress
      *Stephen King (Author)
      • Revival
      • Salem’s Lot
      • The Stand
      *A Song of Fire and Ice by George R.R. Martin (Read partially)

      • A Game of Thrones
      • A Clash of Kings
      • A Storm of Swords
      • A Feast for Crows
      • A Dance with Dragons
      *Lev Grossman (Author)
      • The Magicians
      • The Magician’s Land
      • The Magician King

      *Leon Uris(Author)
      • Redemption
      • O’Hara’s Choice
      • Mila 18
      • Mitla Pass
      • Battle Cry
      • Armageddon
      • The Haj
      • QB VII
      • Topaz
      • The Angry Hills
      • Exodus

      * Nora Roberts (Author)
      • Whiskey Beach

      * Vampire Academy Series by Richelle Mead
      *Steve Berry (Author)
      • The Admiral’s Mark
      • The Amber Room
      • The Balkan Escape
      • The Charlemagne Pursuit
      • The Columbus Affair
      • The Devil’s Gold
      • The Emperor’s Tomb
      • The Jefferson Key
      • The Paris Vendetta
      • The Romanov Prophecy
      • The Templar Legacy
      • The Third Secret
      • The Venetian Betrayal
      There are more books to be added to my shelf of course, I will do an update in the latter part of 2016. 
      xo Kat

      Ridiculous Hashtags

      A few years back, I thought the “hashtag” (#) was a brilliant idea. It turns words and phrases into a link where you can search for related topics. It’s basically like a keyword used on different social media platforms. So as I was saying, I thought it was a brilliant way to allow people to track discussions, photos, topics etc. But now it’s really annoying. Not the functionality of it but people who abuse it in an annoying manner.

      I don’t think everyone really understands how a hashtag is used. When you hashtag an entire caption or post, what is that? Why would you hashtag the word “it”? Every word in the sentence is a different hashtag. I don’t think people type in words such as “the” or “him” in a search. Okay maybe I’m ranting a little too far, but you get what I’m saying and it’s super annoying. Almost as annoying as people who type “LyKe tHiS”.

      Another way it is abused is when an entire sentence is one hashtag. OH EM GGG! For example #Iwearblackonfridaysanddrinkcoffeeforbreakfast. Did you get that? Would you even search that? I would think if one wants to see topics about coffee, one would search #coffee. So it’s ridiculous to even create a hashtag like that. It defeats the purpose. Hashtags were created as a link. When you use hashtags that only yourself can understand or would use, no one else would search it or use it, so why create it in a hashtag anyway? It’s a link that doesn’t need to exist.

      Sincerely,
      People Who Are Annoyed By Ridiculous Hashtags

      Ashamed of Being Yourself

      This morning I was remembering an incident where I was insulted for listening to Turkish music. Some years back, a classmate of mine was going through my iPod and he came across Arabic and Turkish music so he joked about it. Lo and behold some girl who gave me a lot of attitude(for no reason) and never spoke to me,chimed in on how I should be relocated to another university because I think I’m better than everyone. What the f*&^? Seriously??? And this is the same attitude that surrounded me most of my life and I had to hide who I really was so people wouldn’t pick on me.

      It’s supposed to be normal to be interested in different things or be passionate about different things from the majority of people around you. Some of us are comfortable in our box and some of us see the universe as our box. Everyone is just a different flavor in a melting pot. At least that’s how I see it.

      For as long as I can remember I have been bashed for something or the other, my taste in music, the clothes I wore, the way I think etc. I honestly felt like something was wrong with me. I was like a square trying to fit into a circle. I was always alone among friends and family. I wished I did a crash course on how to deal with mean people, maybe I would’ve handled things better.

      Eventually I became ashamed of expressing myself and the things that I was interested in. The sad thing about hiding who you are, you will never get full satisfaction.You will never be contented with yourself. As long as you are deceiving your heart, life will always be unbearable.

      As time passes, you should learn to appreciate your differences. It makes you, you! It makes you stand out and that is a good thing. We are all born original, we shouldn’t turn into copying machines. The important thing is to always stay true to yourself. You will be surprised to know a change in the people you surround yourself with will make room for others who are accepting of you and who you are. In the end, people will judge you anyway so be happy and do what makes you happy. Never be ashamed of who you are because you don’t fit in with a bunch of closed minds.

      xo Kat

      Knowing Everything About Everything

      Growing up I would often think I’m stupid and I should know more, because people make you feel inferior if you can’t comment on something. But I don’t have that kind of energy, I always feel like there’s something to learn in this world and it’s okay to admit you don’t know about something or you’ve never heard it before. I’d like to believe most of us aren’t stupid, we just have expertise in the field we are passionate about and other fields, we’re not so learned in it.

      However, I have encountered some die hard know-it-alls. I mean these people are so serious about knowing everything when in reality their knowledge is quite limited or just plain ignorant. It’s best to ignore them but it’s also very difficult when you have to deal with them often. They can really get under your skin and annoy the daylights out of you. Some of them know they’re wrong but they just can’t accept being wrong so they carry on in their banter to make the other person look stupid.

      What am I saying though? Some people really know everything about everything. Like fanatics, they know everything about whatever it is they know. That’s all well and good but they feel the need to always make a statement about how much they “know” about something and you don’t. Because God forbid anyone else takes an interest and has some knowledge in whatever they’re talking about.

      It’s not only appalling but it’s amazing, because it really leaves me in awe when I see this level of dedication that people have when it comes to knowing more than others. Of course there are experts in every subject that we can learn from, but this is something else entirely. This is basically trying to “outknow” people in order to make them look stupid or make one’s ego satisfied.

      I have had experiences where people would just not let you get a single word in or try to understand things from a different perspective. Sometimes I wonder if it’s a mask, because they feel inadequate and would not take an inferior position to someone else. Being wrong is humiliating for them, the most important thing is to feel like winning.

      You stating facts do not make a difference to them. It’s hard when people who are in close proximity to you are this way because often you’ll be arguing. Before I would try to reason, or have a debate but now I just agree to disagree and close the conversation. Let them have the last say and move on.

      xo Kat

      Most Liked Book Series Part 1

      I have read these books at different ages and stages of my life. It has either impacted or remained with me as a most liked till this day. I will call this Part 1 because I cannot remember all the series I have read in this moment, also I don’t want to make this super long. I have labelled this as “most liked series” because I can’t really say favorite. I think if you have more than five favorites, it’s not really a favorite.

      The Sweep Series (Cate Tiernan)

      This series I believe have really broken me out into reading book series. I had read Harry Potter before this, but this one really made me want to read more series in this genre particularly. The subject of this series is Wicca. Growing up you may tend to misunderstand Wicca for what it is but reading can really open up a whole new world. The series follows Morgan Rowlands, a teenage girl who discovers that she is actually a born witch with powers and can perform magick. She learns the dos and don’ts as well as falling in love and fighting dark forces. I had found this book in my highschool library and there were only the first two. There was no way I could get the others, things weren’t as accessible as it is now. Years later, I found it in eBook format online and I read the rest of the 12 books. There are 14 all together and a 3rd person special edition I believe. I would say this is my favorite series of all time because it really opened up my love for reading about magic and witches, fantasy and horror.




      The Demonata (Darren Shan)

      This series follows three people from different times, Grubs Grady, Kernel Fleck and Bec Mcconn. It is made up of 10 books. The three main characters do eventually meet. A group of Mages called the Disciples accompanies them. The disciples travel through different Demon universes and the world trying to protect humans. The main demon in this series is Lord Loss who feeds off the sorrow of human beings. He has many minions that plays terrifying parts throughout the series. Their goal is to destroy the human universe. These books are so brutal and action packed from the start, I was a little bit surprised, in a good way. It’s a perfect mix of  horror and fantasy. I love the ending where the main characters take on a sort of intangible form to recreate the universe as it once was but with a better vision. 


      House of Night (P.C. Cast & Kristin Cast)

      I think there are twelve books and some novellas to go with this series. I have just read seven of these books. I started reading it a long time ago and life got busy. I have started to read the way I want to but I think with age, I didn’t necessarily lose interest, but there’s just so much that I prioritized before this series. I will be getting back to it soon though. It is still however one of my most liked series. A mixture of Vampires and Wicca. I didn’t read much books like this before so this was definitely ground breaking in this type of subject. The main character in this book is Zoey Redbird. She was marked and then she had to attend a vampire boarding school which functions at night of course, hence the name House of Night. Zoey is definitely not your damsel in distress and I liked that about her character. She is accepting of her fate and she isn’t scared or guilted about screwing up. I will probably do a better review once I have finished reading this series. 





      Stay Tuned for Part 2 of my most liked series.

      Happy Reading
      XO Kat

      Kindle Book Review: The Chef’s Mail Order Bride

      This is the only book in the series I have read.

      A young woman, Sadie, has lost her parents’ bakery after their death. She receives a letter from her sister, with a marriage proposal to her brother-in-law’s best friend, Tripp. Tripp is also a chef and is opening a restaurant so she sees this an an opportunity and decides to go since she has to find a away to support herself. 

      When she got there, she realized it was more a business transaction than marriage, as Tripp had to be married in order to get a loan to open his restaurant. Disappointed, she decides to stay on and help him out. They butt heads as they both have different ideas for the restaurant and are falling for each other. A nice, short, cozy read when you’re in that kind of mood.

      Wild West Frontier Brides Book 1 by Cindy Caldwell

      Happy Reading!
      xo Kat

      Wearing the Victim Card

      Everybody has played the victim card at least once in life to manipulate a situation for their own benefit, and I say once lightly because I’m pretty sure it’s more than that. Then there are those that wear it. It must get exhausting always playing that card, wouldn’t it? Shouldn’t it?

      I’m not ignoring the fact that some people are actually victims, of abuse etc etc. Let me just put that disclaimer out there firstly.

      Self-victimization is often fabricated for attention or manipulating other people and situations. I have recently seen people playing this role like they’re getting payed for it because they don’t want to accept being wrong. It’s difficult for them to apologize because they feel like someone else will have a sort of upper hand on them, instead they play victim and shift the blame to someone else. This is their sneaky little way of thinking they’re “winning” something.

      Victims look for sympathy and attention from others when they aren’t enough for themselves. They can’t or won’t improve their situation, they bring a lot of negativity into their space and they also take advantage of people who show care and concern. I have actually dealt with being a convenient shoulder to lean on for a few people with this kind of behavior. I genuinely cared and then year after year after year, I realized these people could not be helped. It was like going in circles, no ending for it. I strongly believe people let this victim role consume them because they refuse to take responsibility for their own actions and choices in life. They get a sort of fulfillment from an outsider who will confirm what they want to hear.

      Having this type of mentality, makes a person stubborn and negative. They will tell you over and over about the negative things they think and feel, but disregard anything you tell them in order to change their opinion or better their situation. From experience, I’ve seen people exaggerate a situation, putting me into a panic that something bad was going to happen to them, getting me all worked up and worried and then nothing. Maybe something will turn out good, maybe something will turn out bad but victims hold on to negative outcomes and it’s not nice to put people who really care through that.

      Playing victim is a state of mind. We may feel sympathetic towards people who put themselves down or are always in a negative mood but we have to be conscious of what is real and what is a lie. Several individuals took me for this ride and exhausted me with it. What happens when you show concern, people take advantage of it and that’s all you are to them. Convenience.

      xo Kat

      December 2015 Kindle Book Review

      These are mostly holiday romances, I get into that mood around the holidays. The majority of these I got for free using bookbub.com, so don’t judge the cheesy, happily ever after stories. If it’s not your cup of tea then move along.

      WARNING: Includes sexual content, not for children.

      *Finding Southern Comfort (Barbara Lohr)
      Harper performs in costumes at kids’ birthday parties, she is tricked by her agent to perform at a bachelor party.She decides to go with it because she is tight on money, however it ends up with a very embarrassed Harper. Weeks later she ends up landing a job as a Nanny to a little girl named Bella, at the same house she embarrassed herself at during the bachelor party. Sparks fly between Harper and Bella’s widowed father Cameron. It’s an enjoyable read, but I will give it 4 stars only because the writer called a 29 year old man, old. Helloooo! She wrote Cameron as if he was in his mid forties, kept stressing how older he was while Harper was in her mid-twenties, I didn’t catch that. Harper was written more like a 19 year old college student, which I had no problems with but it really irked me the way the writer made Cameron feel so old at just 29. To be noted, old and mature is very different.

      *Three Wise Men Series (Serenity Woods)
      Book 1. The Perfect Gift
      Steamy, fast paced December romance. Like I said, I quite enjoy these around the holidays. Brock King, a widowed pediatrician, meets a single mother with whom he has been chatting with for the past year. They both know instantly that they like each other a lot and they want more. Brock is a billionaire owner of a huge foundation for sick children along with his two brothers, Charlie and Matt. Erin, a single mother is struggling to make ends meet, so she always feels intimidated by Brock’s money. She doesn’t want him or herself to feel like she is interested in him only for financial security. Brock does a very good job of directing the relationship where he wants it to be and helps her remove her confusion.

      Book 2. The Ideal Present
      This is the second book in the series, I have not read the third. This one is about Brock’s brother Charlie who is a bit of an introvert. He has had a long lasting crush on Ophelia, who is another single mother. Well not so single, since her husband with whom she is only separated with is trying to get back together. Charlie is a very calm character, doesn’t act on impulse, thinks before he acts. I like how they ended up together but not in an unrealistic way.

      Overall I like the way this author writes.

      *Winter in Sweetwater County (Ciara Night)
      Lisa Mortan buys an antique shop in a small town with a woman that she met online. Lisa is escaping a relationship from the city with secrets. She and Eric, her co-owner’s son have an undeniable and irresistible attraction from day one but they both have secrets. Eric is dealing with tragedy from his past and Lisa is carrying her ex-boyfriend’s baby that he doesn’t know about. She left him with the impression that she had an abortion before she left the city. It turns out well of course. A nice cozy read.This is also part of a series, I haven’t read any more of it though.

      Happy Reading!
      xo Kat

      Book Tag! #BookTag



      1) Do you have a certain place at home for reading? 
       – No I can read absolutely anywhere.

      2) Bookmark or random piece of paper?
      – I used to own bookmarks many moons ago, now it’s mostly receipts or random pieces of paper.

      3) Can you stop reading anytime you want or do you have to stop at a certain page?
      – I can stop anywhere, when you have a busy life, that’s normally how it goes.

      4) Do you eat or drink while reading?
      – Sometimes, but only if I’m using my tablet.

      5) Can you read while listening to music/watching TV?
      – I prefer not too, I’m sure I wouldn’t remember what I’m reading.

      6) One book at a time or several books at a time?
      – I prefer not too but I can read several at a time, it happens.

      7) Reading at home or everywhere?
      – Everywhere! I never leave home without reading material. I usually carry an actual book in case my tablet is discharged.

      8) Reading out loud or silently in your head?
      – Both! I mostly read silently, sometimes I whisper and sometimes I read out loud in fake accents (mostly British).

      9) Do you read ahead or skip pages?
      – I prefer not to as a spoiler would cause me to stop reading the book entirely. I do skip pages with details about the environment and surroundings. For example, Italy is described in so many novels in so many pages so sometimes I would skip details like that.

      10) Do you write in books?
      – I used to write my name, I highlight in textbooks. I read on my tablet 99% of the time now so I highlight and add notes there, don’t know if that counts.

      11) Breaking the spine?
      – Of course with paperbacks. It doesn’t bother me, I like seeing a used book, makes me feel they have been loved before.

      I don’t know anyone with a blog, but I tag all my reading gal pals to do this, maybe on Facebook notes.
      xo Kat